Sunday 25 February 2018

Lessons in being yourself



Who are you? I mean really. I feel like that question is posed to me almost daily, though not in as many words - hence the lack of quotation marks.Instead, it's the way life presents itself, and in the you react to it. In those small moments, often tiny intracies which are between the lines of our existence does the way we really are become exposed.

These things, of course, are nearly impossible to change, often only visible in sparks of emotion which are instant and finite; which, whilst slightly worrying, is quite comforting. We're constantly told to be ourselves, that the only people worth knowing would be the ones who love us the way we are.

So why is it that I try so hard to please everyone I meet?



Whether it's at work, waiting for the bus or hastily vacating a booked train seat following apprehensive glares, I am desperate for people to like me. Something which I know, of course, is an impossible task, not to mention exhausting. Going beyond the regular 'just trying to be a genuinely nice person' to 'shit, did my smile look fake when I passed them in the corridor? Must talk to them at lunch to make sure we're ok'


So how do we become comfortable in ourselves? Is it purely based on what everyone else thinks?
For me, no. I think once you stop doubting yourself so much and start to trust the choices you make, you can begin to really be yourself. Whilst I'm lucky enough to be at that stage with the people closest to me, I need to understand that to reaching that point with everyone would be an impossible task. And one that I don't need to undertake.


I really need to take a lesson from the Georgia in the photos above. Effortless, carefree and not feeling like I need to be someone I'm not. Something which is harder than we'd like to think.

Photos c/o the amazing will.fm

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8 comments

  1. I'm forever doubting myself and my capabilities but your right! You should believe in yourself more often and when I do I do feel more confident and others notice it too! It's just something you need to remember as it can be difficult to always feel positive from time to time! x

    Jenny | Krystel Couture X

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  2. You are so right!
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    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
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  3. These are such gorgeous photos, I love the lighting! Overthinking how we come across to others can be so draining, love your thoughts in this post :)

    aglassofice.com x

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  4. I totally agree, once we stop doubting ourselves that is key <3
    Lots of love xx

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  5. Great post and pictures! It's sometimes a struggle to be yourself but once you are, it feels good!
    Have a lovely weekend :)
    Rosanna x
    Rose's Rooftop

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  6. I love the quote "once you become fearless- you become limitless". And the first stop is, whe you sto pdoubting yourself. What a lovely post and pictures hun.

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  7. I don't blame you, this is how our society is. And since we all have so much access to seeing each other and what everyone is doing, it puts even more strain on us to be picture perfect. I know it's cliche but we really are all unique and need to just keep being ourselves <3

    Stacey, thebambieyes.com

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  8. Absolutely loved this post my gorgeous Georgia, as always it's so stunningly well-written and poignant not to mention 100% relatable. You are SO right that it's an impossible task to be yourself with everyone outside your circle, I used to feel so frustrated that I could never "just be myself" with other people but I'm finally at the point of realisation that as long as I can be who I am with those closest to me, it doesn't matter if I can't be with those who aren't. You are forever fierce and looking like the total queen of babetown you are in these stunning shots. The total badass BOMB, always! <3

    Sophie | soinspo xo

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